The moment you read this don’t think I’m some anti – feminist or a chauvinist who is going to give a blog on how women are an object of weakness, desire, lust, sympathy and a good for nothing being on this mortal abode. Let not the misfortunes and miseries of your life disregard this wonderful creation who is a mother; who is a daughter, who is a sister; who is a friend and yes who is your girlfriend and your better half. This blog is in fact about the ladies in my life and limited to the latter three stated above rather two only coz I’m still to have a girlfriend.
WOMAN – A FRIEND
If you have read my testimonial in Orkut given by my sis, it says that I have a huge female fan following. Right she is. I always had many girl – friends. I was always popular among them. I don’t remember of my first two school coz I was small then when I got into my third school I was famous in all classes, right from class 1 to class 10. The measure of it was the number of rakhis I had on both my hands on Rakshabandhan Day. You bet it; girls had high expectations from me: SECURITY. Those of you who have seen me must be having a derisive smile on their faces. I know I know!!
Over the years I developed some good friends among girls. Considering the Aquarian in me I never fell short of friends (males & females). The interesting fact is though however clumsy, timid and shabby I look I always had the best of girls of the class as my friends. Not that I eyed them but somehow my chemistry used to gel with them. The fact remains still. In those formative years I may not have realized the value of friends and the pivotal role of a woman in one’s life but today in the formative years of my life as a patriarch I can understand it well. But you know I have been intrigued over and over again by this mystery called WOMAN. This blog was to be direct on woman but then I just couldn’t find the right words to pen down the vagaries of my mind. There is an aberration here to adjust this new aspect.
NO OFFENCE MEANT TO GIRLS. FREE TO GIVE IN YOUR COMMENTS. From my own experience and from my friends too I have come to a definite conclusion that girls have infinite power of maintaining clandestinity in personal matters, be it matters of heart or be it matters concerning their near and dear ones. When you think you know a girl inside out, be prudent, you have only started knowing her. There is a friend of mine with whom I share a great rapport. There are times when she leaves me totally bedazzled. I just can’t clear the air of mystery around her. It is then when I kinda know her well. There are times when I’m able to pick up things from thin air and there are times when certain things are just inexplicable. This fact is strengthened by another girl who is very good friend of my friend. In fact it was after knowing about her only that I decided to write this blog.
The second definite conclusion is you will never know what a girl really intends to or what really lies in her heart leave aside her heart of her heart. This fact was strengthened again by the two ladies stated above. Don’t think my conclusions are based on these two and they are Immortal truth. My observations were on many but since I got to know these two really close so the conclusion was drawn through them and these are just my way of taking things. Don’t adopt them and take them for truth. I’m not the one who draws conclusions based on an action or two, I really delve hard into things and it’s only when I’m convinced thoroughly that I put it on platter for others. I think this could last for eternity so I should come back to the main topic.
Believe me, if you ever want to know the in and outs of a WOMAN, befriend a girl rather make her your best pal. I have known something about them through my friend and you can too.
WOMAN: A GIRLFRIEND
I’m really incompetent to say anything on this as I’m still to have a girlfriend. But what I know is that I’m not the one who can be in and out of a relationship that easily. So if I’m still single it is because it’s not a fun game for me like others. I’m not here to test my self. I respect woman, their feelings and the institution of marriage. The day I commit, it would be a lifelong affair.
WOMAN: AS BETTER HALF
Well incompetent still but yes I do have a picture in mind. I know you all have it. Believe me it isn’t that fairy tale kind of thing. Its very simple, down to earth and a very realistic kind. Not much expectation and very personal to write it here. All I can say is it will be my choice and my parents consent on her or be it the other way it doesn’t matter. All I want is she can tolerate the eccentricity in me and be my intellectual counterpart.
There is much to write but I’m again in that perennial dilemma whether to write or not. You know sometimes you just don’t feel letting certain things out. Yes this happens with guys too. Why don’t you come up with your version of this topic? It would be interesting to know whether I’m the 10 or the 90 among 100.
5 comments:
i really appreciate ur honesty behind this one.keep walking...
hey :)... You are right that women do keep a lot of things about themselves clandestine... But it's not a choice... I guess we are just not confident of the guy's love and acceptance of ourselves. We are afraid to tell you who we are bcuz you may not like who we are... and that is all we have afterall...
If i talk abt myself, I have shared most with those guys who have been able to convince me that they'll love me and accept me no matter what i do or say... be it cousins, friends or lover. So try giving more assurance to the ladies you wanna know that you'll never ever abandon them!
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agreed...
one of the most difficult toics picked by u...
and a good try to do justice to it..
but whatever... intresting to read ur observations..
nice that u did not come up with generalizations.. your law of avrages dreaded me a bit ...
keep it flowing..
hmmm.... yaar tere saare blogs ek saath padh raha hoon ... isliye aise hi "hmmmmm" karta rahoonga comments mein ...
i am getting to know u better... a very interesting topic.. i wud also like to write something on it ... but may be sometime later ... as of now i wud say ....
Women most beautiful creations by God and without them our life is incomplete. They are a mystery too...
but it will be an interesting challenge to unravel the mystery ;-)
PS: I have mentioned women and not woman because she has to play so many diffferent roles at different times in her life.
amazing !!!
HI wandering soul... you are right that you cannot judge all by knowing few..it is the practical approach, but you say women are mystery I do not agree.... No they are not...but it is the fact that you cannot understand them... well one of the lady commented that women needs assurance of love and security before opening there hearts but I suppose this goes with each one of us. Actually I donot know why people think women are like this men are like that...ultimately they both are same...human beings....with same kind of needs and same kind of desires...and what ever distinct behaviours you see are because of the upbringing.. As you used patriatic word...quite clearly you can understand that what kind of role women are playing in house hold, secondary to the husband, never equal in reality though I know couples where mutual understanding is so much that female is almost equal....see here to almost and not exactly. It may not be the fault of the husband but fault of the society. Then in society too females are kept for certain jobs exclusively and men for others..it is the way we have been thinking from ages.times are changing and we see women excel.... and men are really turning up to be more understanding.......
Hmmmmm commnet as lengthy as post!!!
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